The 3rd room concept.
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Happy Sunday. I hope you’ve smiled at strangers and made yourself proud this week.
1 month in Adelaide today. This has been the longest amount of time I’ve spent at ‘home’ in 4 years. And what a joyful time it’s been - unfortunately, the time has come to depart. But over this past month, I’ve been lucky enough to dive into some beautiful conversations with so many important people in my life that base themselves here in Adelaide.
This week a topic that was brought to my attention and has been on my mind a lot has been the idea of a ‘3rd room concept.’ Simply put; room 1 is your workplace. Room 2 is your home. These 2 places are the ones we visit daily, high volume areas. 2 places that most of us would spend the most amount of time in or around. The 3rd room concept is a place you can go and have some ‘you’ time, it’s a place that without a doubt you know will provide a feeling of coming back into tune within yourself or just a space that makes you smile and feel all warm and cozy when you arrive. For example; one of my friend's 3rd room is this local bar that serves her favourite dark beer on tap. She can go there and without fail pull out a book, and order a beer. Hideaway for a few hours and walk out ready for the day, and the week ahead or just be at peace for a few hours with no life distractions. The 3rd room is a place you go to fill up your cup. It’s where you go to recharge, like a Tesla going to a charging station. Plug in and plug out.
I had an interesting thought process with the idea of the 3rd room. Where the heck was my 3rd room? After being on the move for so long, I concluded that the 3rd room concept is like anything in life. It all comes in seasons. So with each new season, a new 3rd room can be built and nurtured. For the last month in Adelaide, my 3rd room has been solo time running on trails, preferably super early or as the sunset and also out collecting miles on the bike, climbing my way up and through the Adelaide hills. No music, phone on aeroplane mode, nothing but my thoughts. Just the voice of my breath and the wind in my ears as I come down Greenhill Road.
In my eyes, the 3rd room has to be easily accessible. Something that is right there in arms reach most days and doesn’t put you out or seem like a pain in the ass to do the thing or go to the place.
Some examples friends gave me over the last few days of their 3rd rooms have been;
the gym
the cafe down the road from their house has a comfortable corner couch
a solo sunset beach walk
a friend’s couch
their parent's home
any beach with sand in between the toes
playing around with a new recipe with headphones in
This week’s challenge is a journal prompt.
If you already have your 3rd room, great, head there, if it’s not a space that you can journal at take yourself to a cute cafe order your favourite hot beverage (go on, get the pastry as well), and write down ‘Where is my 3rd room?’ and follow that with;
Why is this my 3rd room?
What about the space here makes me feel so warm and cozy?
Dance around with it. Dive into the detail of the space. The colours, the lighting, is there a favourite time of day you love to visit the space, the feelings it gives you when you arrive in your 3rd room, are you solo or with friends?
If you don’t have a 3rd room yet, no qualms. How exciting it is to think about it now. Over the course of the week coming focus on catching yourself smiling or having those warm and cozy feelings that aren’t in rooms 1 and 2. It might be when you are at the gym or on that weekly beach walk or at your mum’s house for dinner and you have a little moment of ‘yep, this it is.’
Once you find your 3rd room for this current season of life; follow the prompts above and if you feel like sharing, I’d love to hear about your 3rd room!
Big love,
Jono <3
Some photos that made me smile this week;











Wow such a cool concept, I’ve never thought about that in that way. Thanks for sharing Jono, definitely something I will ponder!