its not meant to get easier.

028. love and long distance.

"The first minute of action is worth more than a year of perfect planning."
- James Clear

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I think that's how I’m going to deal with it.
I’ll be sharing my way of navigating this here on Substack. Lucky you!
Because when you know, you know.

For those who don’t know, my partner and I have been doing long distance since we met, but recently we've gone worldwide, taking it to the main stage with G’s dream coming true: the opportunity to go live, explore, ponder, and work in New York City. It's a dream many have, and with nothing but sheer hard work and drive, she’s made it happen. I’m quite impressed.
Dreams do come true; you just have to work for them.

Well, so far doing this whole distance thing isn’t easy. It never was going to be. I’d be lying if I said I thought this would be easy. It's not meant to be easy because love isn’t easy—it takes work. It makes me so much more attracted to her knowing that she’s gone after the thing, not just sitting there talking about it or pondering if she could do the thing. She’s making the thing a thing. In a world where so many of us sit in our comfy chairs, it fires me up to see the person I love going after it, even if it hurts both our hearts along the way.
Would it be easier if she didn’t go? Probably.
But where's the story in that? I’m already counting down the days until it ends, looking forward to sitting in the sun, drinking tea, and reflecting on this year, thinking, “Yep, we did that.”

So many people will share their two cents, even if you didn’t ask, and question how they would handle it, despite never having lived through something like this.
“Why aren’t you going as well?” is a common question, but it hasn’t taken up too much space in my mind.
The answer I’ve come to is, “Whose dream is it? Mine or G’s?”
I’m not a New York kind of guy. I’m beyond excited to visit during Christmas and New Year’s, but living there isn’t my dream. That might change once I visit; who knows? But for now, it’s not my dream. I’d just be a sheep following my partner around while she lives out her dream, leaving me to ponder what I’m doing with my life.

I look back on our lives as they currently stand. I’m here in Kingscliff, building my empire, enjoying the lifestyle change along the coast, no longer living out of my backpack or troopy, while push Freedom Fit Outs. Meanwhile, G’s out there in NYC building her empire, filling up her storybook, and leveling up in her field of work.

In my opinion, we’re unstoppable years to come.

So, there might be a bit of a change of pace here for a while, and I’m going to take you along for the ride because it’s going to be hard. I’m curious to see the lessons I’ll learn over the next 12 months and I reckon I’ll share them along the way.

If you’re currently doing long distance or have before, send me a message—I’d love to hear your experiences!

Big love,

Jono

Happy Tuesday! :)

On the topic of love; heres some frames from a proposal I shot on film last month xx